The
consternation caused by first-dates with a
new person is a timeless, age-old dilemma that
never goes out of style. The decisions abound,
from what to wear, what to say and where to
go?
While we can’t advise you on what to say the
first time you go out with someone, and we’re
not about to deliberate on fashion choices,
here are 10 suggestions to facilitate your
decision of where to take someone on a first
date:
1. Meet her/him for dinner . It may not break
new ground in the pantheon of dating ideas,
but there are few better ways to get to know a
person on a first date than over dinner. Do it
at a casual restaurant rather than a four-star
establishment. And don’t make the mistake
Mark Ratner did when he brought Stacey to
the German restaurant on their first date in
“Fast Times at Ridgemont High”—for Gosh
sakes, bring enough money to cover the meal!
2. Take them to lunch . It represents less
pressure on the part of both parties on the
date if the meeting is taking place in the
daytime. Not only is it light out, but lunch
usually brings with it inherent time limits—a
key component just in case you two don’t hit
it off and are looking for the escape hatch
soon after getting together.
3. Coffee or ice cream . This takes the lunch
philosophy and dials it down even more.
Although, quite famously, when someone
asks, “Wanna come in for coffee?” they don’t
always mean coffee, in this case, meeting
over coffee or an ice cream cone implies little
pressure and more of a breather until (if) you
two are able to reach a greater comfort level
with one another.
4. A sporting event . Get tickets to a baseball
or basketball game and take your date there.
It isn’t romantic, but it’s wide open, public,
fun, and you’ll have a natural focal point of
conversation (the game that you’re both
watching) to fill in the gaps in conversation
that can be a first-date hazard.
5. Concert. If you both have similar tastes in
music, whether it’s rock, hip-hop or classical,
then concert tickets might be a good point to
start off your potential relationship. Like a
ballgame, you’d be meeting in a public place
with lots of people around and a common
point of interest to generate conversation.
6. Movie . A movie ticket is a lot more
expensive than it used to be, and there isn’t a
lot of opportunity for get-to-know-each-other
conversation in a darkened theater, however
the movies are a reliable go-to choice for a
first date. You could also combine the movie
with suggestions 1, 2 or 3. Or you could hang
out at home with a DVD or Netflix movie
choice, saving the gas and the money, but
upping the ante in terms of possible first-date
tension.
7. Picnic. Enjoy the great outdoors by
packing a picnic lunch and heading to the
park to get to know each other. It’s breezy,
casual and a nice chance to connect without
having to tip a waitress or concern yourself
with the niceties of dining out.
8. The zoo . If you both like nature and
wildlife, a visit to the zoo can be just as much
fun with a first date as it is with a wide-eyed
child.
9. The mall . Another public place where you
can walk around, discover common interests
and quietly make fun of the people passing
you by is the mall. There’s plenty to do, plenty
to talk about and the pressure quotient is
fairly low.
10. Be active . Take your first date bowling,
roller skating, ice skating, mini-golfing or
apple picking. You’ll be doing something
together, hopefully having fun, and you both
might enjoy the dynamic of a plan that
involves something other than sitting across a
table or in a theater or concert hall with one
another.
These tips are no guarantee of date success.
Just relax, don’t be dull, and, again, make
sure you have enough money on hand.
Good luck.
Source : lateat.com
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